We have heard many excuses to avoid discussing wills, trusts, and everything else relating to estate planning. The most common stem from concerns that it is too personal or sensitive a subject. Some even believe that talking about their potential demise will cause it to happen. However, having a conversation about estate planning with your loved ones is an opportunity for you to explain your wishes, discourage future discord through transparency, and open the door to better planning through better understanding. Here are some tips on where to begin:
Timing is Key: Consider your audience and when and how to approach them. If the person you want to talk to is busy or does not respond well to surprises, you may want to schedule your conversation. On the other hand, it may be best to broach the subject unannounced on an occasion you know you will provide time to discuss it without distraction, such as on a long drive or walk.
Start with a Story: You may find it easier to begin with a current event or a friend’s experience rather than diving straight into more personal concerns. Relating a story about how someone else’s estate plan – or lack thereof – affected his loved ones may also help you convey why the conversation is important to you.
Break it Up: Depending on your individual circumstances, and the personalities of your loved ones, it may be better to plan to have more than one conversation. To facilitate a true discussion where all parties feel they are heard and understood, consider addressing each topic, or even each family member, on separate occasions.
After you get the conversation started, let us help you define your wishes and learn about your options. Attending one of our monthly estate planning workshops is both a great way to keep the discussion going and the first step in our estate planning process.
For more great tips on initiating an estate planning conversation, click here for the Forbes slideshow that inspired us.